Fitness and keeping moving is IMPORTANT. For me it is a daily struggle and whenever I find folks that motivate me to keep moving and help me keep up with my daily step goals, I am happy. Shay is realistic, funny, AND motivational, she has some of the best dang recipe suggestions.
Here is my chat with Shay the “Fitness Strategist”:
Have you always been someone who is into health and fitness, if not when did you start to be interested in health and fitness:
I have always been into fitness. As a Soldier in the Armed Forces, it’s important to be in tip top shape.
What is the biggest obstacle that you find most women face regarding staying fit/healthy:
The biggest obstacles I see is that most people don’t have the time to exercise or meal prep.
How much time does meal prep take you:
I usually do it on Sunday and it takes about 3 hours.
Mental health and awareness surrounding the topic are extremely important to me. This woman making her-story is doing a great job bringing awareness to a topic that deserves more attention. Ashleigh thank you for sharing part of your experience with us.
Why is mental health awareness important to you:
Mental Health Awareness is important to me because it’s the foundation of our very being. If we aren’t in tune with our minds and attentive to our emotions , triggers and responses to certain situations, our ability to function in society goes down. Educating others through personal experience and research-based tips is my way of furthering mental health and pushing mental health awareness.
Where did the name the black gold series come from:
The name The Black Gold Series came to me while I was a junior in high school. I was sitting in history class and we had to watch one of those long history videos and take notes. The video was about the start of oil, and I noticed how they nicknamed it “black gold” because of the color and because it was profitable, in high demand, and helped individuals reach a certain level of success. I wanted to start a blog on mental health at the time, and decided that would be the name. I wanted it to not only be for mental health awareness for everyone, but to also have aspects that focus on mental health for minority men and women.
What does the book “The Perks of Being A Wall Flower” mean to you:
That book is my all-time favorite book! I first read it when I was in high school and at the time, I had just been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety and Social Anxiety disorders. Feeling misunderstood and lost because the responses of my peers to my diagnoses was either not taking it seriously at all or hearing the word “disorder” and overreacting. I felt totally misunderstood and struggled to find my voice not just as a person, but as a person with a whole new diagnosis I didn’t know I had before. Charlie the main character in the book, was in a similar situation, and the book showed him finding his voice as a person with anxiety and depression, but also as just a person. It helped me find my voice.
What do you do for self-care / mental health:
I’m a big believer in having a morning routine. This is for both self-care and mental health. A lot of studies show it increases productivity and happiness and I can attest to it, for sure! Meditating in the morning and setting my intentions for the day helps me clear my mind and prepare for the day. I also like to set aside time during my day where I put my phone on Do Not Disturb, just to have a mini break from social media.
What can we do to help the mental health stigma in the black community:
Educate, educate, educate! Many of us are either uneducated on mental health and want to learn or either uneducated and unwilling to learn. Those who want to learn, help them! Give them resources to learn and educate on their own time and be open to asking and answering questions. I also say to know how important our mental health is to our lives and functionality, and how serious it is and should be taken. It’s not just a demon to be prayed away, or a cry for attention. It’s a serious imbalance or illness that deserves attention and treatment.
Who are some mentors that you have:
One mentor that I have is Michelle Williams. I love that she is so open with her journey with mental health and how it should be taken seriously, even as Christians. I also look up to Dr. Kelsei LeAnn, she is a millennial therapist who literally does it all. She does affordable therapy, has a best-selling book, and offers daily advice through her twitter. She’s paving the way for women like myself, and she is my main inspiration for what I do.
What do you have planned for this year to help people with mental health:
I have so many things planned for this year! I’m planning to do more interactive things with my followers so I definitely want to do a mental health/self-care-based giveaway sometime soon. I also have different series planned for furthering mental education such as my Healthy Love series going on right now. A communication series will be coming soon. I’m planning to help with different communication skills for different audiences. In addition I will have a mental health education series for describing different disorders and their symptoms and treatments.
In February you are talking about focusing on Healthy love where can folks get more on this series:
My Healthy Love series is geared toward all ages and genders. The series can be found on my Instagram @theblackgoldseries . I will also have a few in-depth articles coming up on my blog soon so be sure to check it out. www.theblackgoldseries.com
Why do you think so many folks stay in toxic relationships:
My favorite novel “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” has a quote that I love: “We accept the love we think we deserve.” I think people stay in toxic relationships because a part of their subconscious believes that it’s what they deserve. Their insecurities along with their toxic partner can lead them to believe that this relationship is all they can get and that this relationship is love because it’s all they will have, and it’s not true. If you’re in a toxic relationship, you deserve a love that fits and compliments you. Coming from experience, You are worthy of that. They aren’t worthy of YOU.
Ashleigh THANK YOU again for discussing such and important topic. I especially liked that you talk about mental health issues not just being able to be prayed away. A motto I myself like to say is “I believe in Jesus and therapy”. Be sure to check out what Ashley sites, you will not be disappointed.
If you know me then you know that I am always looking for a good podcast to tune into. As I have mentioned before I like all sorts of podcasts. Sports, entertainment, inspirational, funny the list goes on and on. I especially like to start my day off with a podcast that is inspiring.
A few months ago I found a podcast on social media and I hit subscribe but didn’t have a chance to listen to right away. What caught my attention was the name of the podcast “Brunch With Bri” I mean who doesn’t like brunch. When I hit play I was happy to hear such an upbeat voice that was genuine. She was not trying to be overly enthusiastic and it was just like chatting it up with friends over brunch.
Brunch With Bri is a podcast that is always dropping gems of knowledge and motivation. So when I decided to do this series on “Women Making Her-Story” I knew Bri was someone I wanted to chat with. I hope you enjoy our chat and be sure to check out the Brunch With Bri Podcast.
How long have you been podcasting:
The Podcast launched not too long ago, in May of 2019. I come from the radio world before I even began podcasting. Hosting and producing my morning radio show on iWorship 96 FM (The Bri Lee Radio Show), has given me the confidence that I could even podcast. Radio really prepared and groomed me to be comfortable in front of the mic, although podcasting has a very different format.
How did you come up with the name of your podcast:
When God first gave me the idea to start a podcast, it was like ‘Podcast…but make it Personal’–
That meant my name had to be included in the title somewhere, but I wanted something with some “bop in it.” I went the alliteration route, playing off the letter ‘B’ in my name. After a few tries, I thought about where I have had the most amazing conversations about anything and that was during brunch with my girls! And there it was…Brunch with Bri – The Podcast was born.
What is your vision for your podcast now and what was the vision when you started:
In my best Keke Palmer voice, I hate to sound ridiculous but when I first started Brunch with Bri, I did not have a clear vision. I knew I wanted it to be a space to share freely experiences and thoughts on life with other women who would listen. This is why I came out the gate telling alllllll of my business from being a creative to parenting and relationships. I had no clear direction on where I wanted it to go. At first, the podcast was more of a “free” space for me creatively, different from anything I have done in the past. I needed that.
During season one, I came out the gate challenging myself and just “figuring it out.” Listening to some of the first episodes, I think it shows! Haha!
Brunch with Bri, slowly organically developed into what it is today. I felt it on my heart to be an intentional platform to empower women in being their multidimensional selves. Now, at 27, I am unapologetically operating in my full multidimensional self (took me a while), which is why I enjoy being an entrepreneur so much. It is where I can be who I am called to be. Naturally, the podcast followed that and now with a clear vision, it is a personal development and entrepreneurship podcast for women seeking to walk in their purpose through business.
That is my passion. To empower other women to be who they are created to be and to help them get there. The podcast and now blog (brunchwithbri.com) encompasses this mission and I am glad it has the impact it does on the women I’ve met who listen.
What have you done to make sure that vision comes to fruition:
Phew! Girl, first and foremost prayer, because the strength has to come from somewhere. Planning is also a big part of making sure the vision comes to fruition. Writing the vision down helps me to stay on track; Not just writing the goal but writing actionable steps that need to be taken to get there. Writing the vision, also helps you stay the course when life throws things at you.
How did you come up with this years theme especially “breaking generational curses”:
Season Two of the podcast I had much more direction and began interviewing amazing entrepreneurs in the marketplace, sharing their stories, different backgrounds, industries, expertise etc. When planning Season 3, I knew to get women to the place in their business similar to the women they have heard thus far, we would have to go even further back and really teach where to start from the beginning. This is why season three, of Brunch with Bri – The Podcast is entitled the “Biz & Basics” series.
On the business side we learn how to write business plans from scratch, the difference between types of business entities, how to build multiple streams of income within your business and scale etc.
What I have noticed in my own experience, that while much of business ownership is about the numbers, and paperwork, and marketing, a lot of that will fail if we don’t have a strong foundation within ourselves.
On the personal development side, we are really digging deep within ourselves, discovering why we want to be business owners in the first place, what that means to us, how that is impacting our families. A lot of us are entrepreneurs to build a legacy for the future and to undo what we know from the past and break chains, cycles and generational curses of lack.
We are really not coming to play in Season 3.
I love that you include your faith in the podcast can you tell me how much your faith means to you:
My faith in God means everything to me. Apart from Him, I can do nothing. I mean God has really gotten me through some things and discovering my purpose through Him is the number one reason why I do what I do.
What advice would you give a new entrepreneur/a new podcaster:
To the budding entrepreneur, I would say, do not measure your “success” in comparison to someone else’s. Comparison is a dangerous game. Don’t worry if someone else is doing the same thing you are. Definitely do not measure your “success” in comparison to others. Pace yourself and celebrate your achievements at every stage.
For a new podcaster, find out what works for you. Worry less about numbers and more about good content. Before anything else, podcasting should be something you enjoy, and then you can build around that.
What are you most proud of when it comes to your podcast.
When it comes to Brunch with Bri, I am most proud of the women in the community. The women we hear back from are really out here living their best lives, making their dreams come true and overcoming personal obstacles while doing it! It makes me emotional every time a woman tells me her story and how they’ve been inspired by an episode or a show topic really resonated with them. I love the Brunch besties and the community that has been built through this platform. God is good!
What are your top 3 favorite shows you have done over the last 2 seasons:
This is a tough question! I am not sure I can even answer that. My most vulnerable moments might have to be my favorite because it is where I pushed myself the most. I share some really personal things and yes…I have cried on the mic. A few of those episodes happen during season one on episodes entitled ‘Father Figures’ and the ‘You are Not The Father’ parts I and II. These are where I share my relationship, something I have never spoken about publicly until then.
If you could interview a famous person who would it be and why :
Thats funny! I have been around media most of my life and “celebrity” is a weird concept, but to choose someone who is very well known, I would love to interview Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts! I love her work, her transparency, how she has stepped into her calling and are helping women walk into theirs as well.
On top of that she is killing the game as a business women and has allllllll the fashions! In my head we are best friends, that just kick it all the time!
As you can see Bri is indeed a woman making Her-Story! I love that she mentioned not measuring your successes based on what others are doing. We must follow our paths and journeys. Sometimes we get caught up in all the noise and forget to do just that.