March is Womens History Month. At the start of the month if you were on the socials at all I am sure you saw a post or two or three about some women making herstory. I absolutely believe in women supporting one another all the time not only when it is a trendy hashtag.
Supporting one another does NOT need to be just because of a big accomplishment. In fact I think celebrating each others small accomplishments is more important; those small accomplishments help get to those big wins. Women making herstory is not always someone getting recognized in the public eye. Women making herstory can be the ones doing work and getting things done matter who is or is not watching.
As we wrap up the month of March lets continue to give the women making herstory their shout outs. Lets also keep celebrating these woman every month of the year.
A few women making herstory this March of 2021 who have sent some sunshine my way this month are:
My freind Roze shes on instagram as @dearyoungerself . If you’re on instagram you gotta hit the follow button. She has the funniest insta stories and she will keep you smiling and encouraged. Sometimes she goes on these funny karaoke spurts and Lawd have mercy they are hysterical. Roze also is a person who is always supporting other women.
Another friend making herstory is Caitlyn. Caitlyn is a writer/blogger and she has the biggest infectious smile. Caitlyn wrote her first book recently it’s called “Mother Mule”. Mother Mule is a sweet reminder of all things mama and how mama’s too sometimes need to be sure to make it known that they too can use a little help.
She Happy Homemaker is a crafter and her creations are absolutely beautiful. If you have a cusotm piece you’d like made she can help you out. The original pieces she has made are also fantastic. You can not make a bad choice at all shopping with her. Definitely check her page out.
Sarah Bessey who is an awesome writer. I am currently reading her latest book ” A Rhythm Of Prayer”. This book is a beautiful collection of prayers that will make you cry, laugh, smile and leave your heart happy.
I hope you get a chance to check these herstory makers out and I would love to hear who some of the women making herstory are that you know.
Fitness and keeping moving is IMPORTANT. For me it is a daily struggle and whenever I find folks that motivate me to keep moving and help me keep up with my daily step goals, I am happy. Shay is realistic, funny, AND motivational, she has some of the best dang recipe suggestions.
Here is my chat with Shay the “Fitness Strategist”:
Have you always been someone who is into health and fitness, if not when did you start to be interested in health and fitness:
I have always been into fitness. As a Soldier in the Armed Forces, it’s important to be in tip top shape.
What is the biggest obstacle that you find most women face regarding staying fit/healthy:
The biggest obstacles I see is that most people don’t have the time to exercise or meal prep.
How much time does meal prep take you:
I usually do it on Sunday and it takes about 3 hours.
Mental health and awareness surrounding the topic are extremely important to me. This woman making her-story is doing a great job bringing awareness to a topic that deserves more attention. Ashleigh thank you for sharing part of your experience with us.
Why is mental health awareness important to you:
Mental Health Awareness is important to me because it’s the foundation of our very being. If we aren’t in tune with our minds and attentive to our emotions , triggers and responses to certain situations, our ability to function in society goes down. Educating others through personal experience and research-based tips is my way of furthering mental health and pushing mental health awareness.
Where did the name the black gold series come from:
The name The Black Gold Series came to me while I was a junior in high school. I was sitting in history class and we had to watch one of those long history videos and take notes. The video was about the start of oil, and I noticed how they nicknamed it “black gold” because of the color and because it was profitable, in high demand, and helped individuals reach a certain level of success. I wanted to start a blog on mental health at the time, and decided that would be the name. I wanted it to not only be for mental health awareness for everyone, but to also have aspects that focus on mental health for minority men and women.
What does the book “The Perks of Being A Wall Flower” mean to you:
That book is my all-time favorite book! I first read it when I was in high school and at the time, I had just been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety and Social Anxiety disorders. Feeling misunderstood and lost because the responses of my peers to my diagnoses was either not taking it seriously at all or hearing the word “disorder” and overreacting. I felt totally misunderstood and struggled to find my voice not just as a person, but as a person with a whole new diagnosis I didn’t know I had before. Charlie the main character in the book, was in a similar situation, and the book showed him finding his voice as a person with anxiety and depression, but also as just a person. It helped me find my voice.
What do you do for self-care / mental health:
I’m a big believer in having a morning routine. This is for both self-care and mental health. A lot of studies show it increases productivity and happiness and I can attest to it, for sure! Meditating in the morning and setting my intentions for the day helps me clear my mind and prepare for the day. I also like to set aside time during my day where I put my phone on Do Not Disturb, just to have a mini break from social media.
What can we do to help the mental health stigma in the black community:
Educate, educate, educate! Many of us are either uneducated on mental health and want to learn or either uneducated and unwilling to learn. Those who want to learn, help them! Give them resources to learn and educate on their own time and be open to asking and answering questions. I also say to know how important our mental health is to our lives and functionality, and how serious it is and should be taken. It’s not just a demon to be prayed away, or a cry for attention. It’s a serious imbalance or illness that deserves attention and treatment.
Who are some mentors that you have:
One mentor that I have is Michelle Williams. I love that she is so open with her journey with mental health and how it should be taken seriously, even as Christians. I also look up to Dr. Kelsei LeAnn, she is a millennial therapist who literally does it all. She does affordable therapy, has a best-selling book, and offers daily advice through her twitter. She’s paving the way for women like myself, and she is my main inspiration for what I do.
What do you have planned for this year to help people with mental health:
I have so many things planned for this year! I’m planning to do more interactive things with my followers so I definitely want to do a mental health/self-care-based giveaway sometime soon. I also have different series planned for furthering mental education such as my Healthy Love series going on right now. A communication series will be coming soon. I’m planning to help with different communication skills for different audiences. In addition I will have a mental health education series for describing different disorders and their symptoms and treatments.
In February you are talking about focusing on Healthy love where can folks get more on this series:
My Healthy Love series is geared toward all ages and genders. The series can be found on my Instagram @theblackgoldseries . I will also have a few in-depth articles coming up on my blog soon so be sure to check it out. www.theblackgoldseries.com
Why do you think so many folks stay in toxic relationships:
My favorite novel “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” has a quote that I love: “We accept the love we think we deserve.” I think people stay in toxic relationships because a part of their subconscious believes that it’s what they deserve. Their insecurities along with their toxic partner can lead them to believe that this relationship is all they can get and that this relationship is love because it’s all they will have, and it’s not true. If you’re in a toxic relationship, you deserve a love that fits and compliments you. Coming from experience, You are worthy of that. They aren’t worthy of YOU.
Ashleigh THANK YOU again for discussing such and important topic. I especially liked that you talk about mental health issues not just being able to be prayed away. A motto I myself like to say is “I believe in Jesus and therapy”. Be sure to check out what Ashley sites, you will not be disappointed.
I am excited to introduce you all to Maisha Rush. She is another woman making her-story. Maisha owns a consulting firm, she blogs and home-schools her children. As you can see her plate is full but she is always ready and willing to help others achieve their goals. Here is my chat with Maisha:
What was your motivation to go into business for yourself:
My motivation was (is) the desire to help black people succeed in business.
What obstacles do you see that most black business owners face when starting out:
Usually the biggest obstacle I notice is the lack of knowing where to start. Sometimes even when knowledge is given, it is the lack of discipline to stay the direct course on building their brand. Most times people want to do the easy stuff like logo, website, social media posting. However without the business fundamentals, automation’s, and processes their businesses don’t go much further than a great idea; meaning they never see significant revenue.
Is your consulting firm your full-time job or do you also work an additional job:
It is my full-time job.
What is the most rewarding aspect of working for yourself/owning a consulting firm:
Time. I get to choose what and when I dedicate my time to.
How do you stay motivated:
What motivates me now is breaking the family curse of “just making it” and knowing my children will do more than me.
What is some of the research you did prior to starting your business:
I am a numbers person. I researched statistics on the Black American population vs Black American wealth. The numbers are astounding and that moved me to study those who are and did make it and to pass that knowledge on.
What advice would you give a mom who is planning to start her own business:
You have to have passion and audacity. Without passion, you will grow to hate what you do. Without audacity, you will fail. You cannot be afraid to GO. Add a plan to that and you will be unstoppable.
When a client reaches out to you for a consulting request what is the first thing you do to assure them your firm is right for them:
I am always open and honest with what we can and cannot do. I am an open book and you can pretty much google any aspect of my life. People choose me because I can relate to them and they can trust me. I aim to always be this way.
Do you have a mentor:
Yes. I have a millionaire mentor. He has been my mentor since 2009.
Can you elaborate a bit more on what your mentor has helped you with:
The main thing my mentor helps me with is staying focused on the upward trajectory not the right now circumstances. Business is about growth. If you aren’t growing you just have a hobby.
Being self-employed how many hours per week do you spend working on your business:
About 2 hours a day. On random ideas and ah-ha moments about 4 hours a day.
Do you enjoy being a business owner:
Absolutely. I don’t know what took me so long.
How do you go about networking to get your business out there and recognized:
I am sure to speak at least once a month and I make it my business to show my face at events at least twice a month.
How do you find events to to attend to keep your name out there:
I keep an eye out for getting in circles I am not currently apart of. Dare I say, more prosperous circles. I always aim NOT to be the smartest person in the room. I am always looking to take.my knowledge up a notch. Its beneficial for me and my clients.
How’d you come to the decision to home school:
My children were not being challenged in their curriculum. In addition I did not agree with the way they were being taught as they struggled to “catch on” to things like common core math. Also, as black children, I felt it was imperative that they learned who they are along with their capabilities. Our curriculum is based on how they learn and what interests them.
Can we get a glimpse into your home-school schedule:
Our schedule is pretty flexible since we have 10 (soon to be 11) children. Some of the children like to do their assignments in the morning, some in the evening laying in bed. We do a good bit of un-schooling which allows us to be flexible.
Maisha is indeed busy making her-story. The passion and drive she has towards her family, goals and business is refreshing. If you’re looking to expand your business and need some guidance definitely reach out to Maisha for some resources. As she said business is about growth and to reach that growth it takes hard work and resources. I can’t wait to do a follow up with Maisha about her home schooling. In the meantime you can find this woman making her-story on Twitter at @Rush_Consulting or Facebook .