Recently I was talking to a friend and she mentioned that it was time to forget about a dream that she hoped to fulfill. Fulfilling this dream she felt was not going to be attainable. At first I was like “yeah I do not see that happening for you”. I know that sounds bad but it was my immediate thought.
I hate to be vague about what she wants to do but I hope that one day I will be writing a follow up to celebrate her accomplishment. The thing is that sometimes we will talk not only ourselves out of things we hope to do and we will sometimes talk those we care about out of things they want to do. While talking to my friend about her dream I asked her what she had done to make things happen. She admitted that there was so much that she had not done.
Dreams are what keep many of us hopeful. Getting older we realize that certain things we hoped to do may be less attainable. Sometimes the hope lost in a dream is because we just can not do it. Other times it is because we have not and will not put the work in to get it done.
For me it tends to be more of not putting the work in that has gotten in my way. It is hard to admit that at times but that is reality.Doing an inventory of what you have or have not done is not bad, it is needed. This will help with accountability and a reset.
Whatever dreams you have, do an inventory of them and get to work. Definitely sounds easier said than done and yep it is easier said than done. But so what, get to work your dreams are waiting on you.
PS- I wrote this a few weeks back but got side tracked and did not hit publish. This message is as much for me as it is to encourage you all. The funny thing is today I hit play on a podcast this morning and the topic was about how women put dreams on hold. Too often it is due to always being in care taker mode. Let’s work on balance between care taking and working on the things we want.
I hate to load your inbox with something new 🙂 but… I am doing just that. Y’all know writing/blogging is something I enjoy. I still have the intentions to keep My Haute Talk active for a long time but the reality of it is when blogging there is a ton of behind the scenes work, techy stuff and time consuming stuff.
So with a push from some writing friends I am giving substack a try. This will allow me to write something and publish it and send it to your inboxes without me having to stress over the techy part. It has taken me a while (too long) to come to the realization that with my schedule right now I just do not have the time it takes to manage the blog and tech stuff right now. I hate that because I have so much I want to do on the blog but it will have to wait a bit. What can not wait longer is me working on becoming a better writer. I am grateful for my writing network for the encouragement and helping me to realize that the “getting it just right” and waiting too long to get to writing on my blog could no longer be a choice.
So here we go you will get some emails from me. You will need to hit subscribe. I appreciate you following this journey of mine. Just hitting publish on this email is hard but also freeing beause I have no techy stuff to do. Big sigh of relief 🙂
Thank you again and I will be sure to let you know when you should stop by myhautetalk.com to check out some posts. In the meantime be subscribe and make sure I do not land in your spam folder.
As I mentioned before I am a podcast junkie. I am so glad podcasts continue to be a thing. Podcasts are on my playlist at least 4 days a week if not more.
I am always up for checking out new shows or continuing to listen to some of my favorites. So let me tell you what a few of my favorites are at the moment:
Raising A Pro– Hosted by Annie Apple who is a journalist, storyteller, and NFL mom. I love this podcast for so many reasons. First off Annie the host is so dang funny. She is always dropping knowledge and humor. On the show Annie interviews families of NFL players and talks about their journey growing up.
It is always fun to hear the different paths these athletes experienced from the young pop warner pee-wee football days all the way to the NFL. When they discuss the high school and college years I really enjoy it. So many of these players have had to overcome some sort of obstacle. Whether it be coaches who did not believe in them, family struggles, injuries etc. Hearing a comeback story or an underdog proving doubters wrong always makes me happy. No matter what level of an athlete you have in your family if you tune into Raising A Pro you will be entertained.
Gettin’ Grown– This is a newer podcast for me and I LOVE it. The hosts Jade and Keia are great and when you listen to them chat it up it is like you’re chatting with friends. Jade and Keia talk about all sorts of things that we as adults have to deal with. They love to cut up and laugh. They have interviewed some awesome folks and you will walk away from their kitchen table feeling like you just had coffee, a meal and a good talk with friends. If you’re looking for a new good listen definitely check them out.
The Morgan Harper Nichols Show– I found this podcast at the right time. Let me tell you it soothes my mind. Morgan has such a comforting voice. Morgan is an artist and poet. Her words will make your heart smile and she will make you think. If you’re on instagram check her page out.
I could go on and on about podcasts so let me just mention a few more and if you are not already listening to them go give them a listen: The Read not rated E for everyone but if you like hip-hop and pop culture check it out. The Friend Zone they talk about everything from politics, current events, culture, you name it and they are talking about it also not rated E for everyone. Last but not least In the Light with Dr. Anita Phillps is a good one that talks alot about mental health situations. I love In the Light because Dr. Anita is a religious person but she KNOWS the importance of counseling and does not just say to folks to “just pray about it”.
Is there a podcast that you enjoy if so please let me know so that I can check it out.
April is National Poetry Month. During the month of April I will share some of my favorite poems with you.
First here is a little background about National Poetry Month:
Inspired by the successful celebrations of Black History Month (February) and Women’s History Month (March),the Academy of American Poets established National Poetry Month in 1996. The academy enlisted a variety of government agencies and officials, educational leaders, publishers, sponsors, poets, and arts organizations to help. April was selected because emed the best time within the year to turn attention toward the art of poetry—in an ultimate effort to encourage poetry readership year-round.
increase the attention paid to poetry by national and local media
encourage increased publication and distribution of poetry books, and
encourage support for poets and poetry.
Langston Hughes is a poet that makes my heart smile. I am so grateful that Mr. Hughes shared his words with us. Here are a few poems of his that I love:
Mother to Son
Well, son, I’ll tell you: Life for me ain’t been no crystal stair. It’s had tacks in it, And splinters, And boards torn up, And places with no carpet on the floor— Bare. But all the time I’se been a-climbin’ on, And reachin’ landin’s, And turnin’ corners, And sometimes goin’ in the dark Where there ain’t been no light. So boy, don’t you turn back. Don’t you set down on the steps ’Cause you finds it’s kinder hard. Don’t you fall now— For I’se still goin’, honey, I’se still climbin’, And life for me ain’t been no crystal stair.
This poem is one I think all parents can relate to. Life gets tough for our kids at times but we need to encourage them to keep on working on those things that may be challenging. Yes it is tough to see our kids struggle. Being realistic and encouraging is needed to help them get through those tough times.
Hold fast to dreams For if dreams die Life is a broken-winged bird That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams For when dreams go Life is a barren field Frozen with snow.
It is always important to keep dreaming. I think too often especially as we get older we tend to forget to keep on dreaming and working on making some of those dreams a reality. Please keep dreaming and no matter how wild, goofy or out of reach you think your dream may be keep working at it.
I love to see the big white moon, A-shining in the sky; I love to see the little stars, When the shadow clouds go by.
I love the rain drops falling On my roof-top in the night; I love the soft wind’s sighing, Before the dawn’s gray light.
I love the deepness of the blue, In my Lord’s heaven above; But better than all these things I think, I love my lady love.
Who doesn’t like a poem about love. Poems about love remind us that love is not a one size fits all. We all tend to describe our love in different ways. Love is beautiful.
Reading poetry is like reading lyrics to a song you love and just vibing out. I hope you enjoyed these Langstong Hughes poems. The collection of works Mr. Hughes has is beautiful if you have time to do so please check out some of his works. Do you have a favorite poem or poet?
March is Womens History Month. At the start of the month if you were on the socials at all I am sure you saw a post or two or three about some women making herstory. I absolutely believe in women supporting one another all the time not only when it is a trendy hashtag.
Supporting one another does NOT need to be just because of a big accomplishment. In fact I think celebrating each others small accomplishments is more important; those small accomplishments help get to those big wins. Women making herstory is not always someone getting recognized in the public eye. Women making herstory can be the ones doing work and getting things done matter who is or is not watching.
As we wrap up the month of March lets continue to give the women making herstory their shout outs. Lets also keep celebrating these woman every month of the year.
A few women making herstory this March of 2021 who have sent some sunshine my way this month are:
My freind Roze shes on instagram as @dearyoungerself . If you’re on instagram you gotta hit the follow button. She has the funniest insta stories and she will keep you smiling and encouraged. Sometimes she goes on these funny karaoke spurts and Lawd have mercy they are hysterical. Roze also is a person who is always supporting other women.
Another friend making herstory is Caitlyn. Caitlyn is a writer/blogger and she has the biggest infectious smile. Caitlyn wrote her first book recently it’s called “Mother Mule”. Mother Mule is a sweet reminder of all things mama and how mama’s too sometimes need to be sure to make it known that they too can use a little help.
She Happy Homemaker is a crafter and her creations are absolutely beautiful. If you have a cusotm piece you’d like made she can help you out. The original pieces she has made are also fantastic. You can not make a bad choice at all shopping with her. Definitely check her page out.
Sarah Bessey who is an awesome writer. I am currently reading her latest book ” A Rhythm Of Prayer”. This book is a beautiful collection of prayers that will make you cry, laugh, smile and leave your heart happy.
I hope you get a chance to check these herstory makers out and I would love to hear who some of the women making herstory are that you know.
We are at the midweek point and I am already needing Friday to be here. How are you doing? Has this week been rough or easy sailing so far? If you are struggling a bit or just need a little boostlet me tell ya I am right there with you. This week has been a little rough: bad news in our world and busyness of family and work.
Here are a few things I do when I need a mid-week pick me up:
Take a leisure walk and take time to enjoy the scenery especially if the weather is nice. Walk and put on your headphones and take your time. Even if you can not take a long leisure walk a nice 15 minute walk can help you recharge will do the trick.
Listen to some of your favorite tunes. Put your head phone on and let the music take you on a journey. Make a playlist and this will help you to always have your favorite tunes ready to go.
Take a bubble bath, like really when is the last time you just laid back and enjoyed a relaxing bubble bath. So relaxing and you can take a nice nap afterwards. I mean hopefully you can get a nap afterwards or take the bubble bath right before bedtime.
Take some deep breaths, sit down in a quiet space and breathe in and out. Breathing exercises can help relax your mind and your body. I use the Calm app for breathing relaxation. You can find a mediatation app in your phones app store.
Finding a few minutes or even a hour to relax your mind and body is always a good idea. Make the time to do it.
What are some things you do for a mid-week pick me up?
My word for 2021 is “Thrive” I always wrestle with myself when it comes to my word for the year. For the past few weeks I’ve journaled and prayed about the goals I have for 2021 and this word “thrive” has just kept coming back to me.
As the adventures of 2021 kick in I hope to thrive in all I do .Even through the obstacles and bumps in the road that are sure to come.
This was posted to my instagram at the start of the year but I wanted to make sure to share my word of the year with you all.
Do you pick a word or phrase for the year? If so what is yours for this year.
My goodness it has been some time since I have checked in and chatted with you guys. I have no real big excuse or exciting reason why. All I can say is: 2020 craziness, life, trying to find balance and all that good stuff. Yes good stuff because I think along the way f all the chaos we can learn a little something. Right now if you were to ask me what I have learned in 2020 and the first few months of this year it would all be jibberish. There has just been too much going on to latch on to a big “learning lesson” or aha moment to share with you all.
With that being said my plan now is to make sure I am writing at least once a week. What will I be writing about? Heck right now I do not know, but I am getting my pen, I mean keyboard ready to go and will write about whatever comes to my mind and my heart.
I hope you are doing well. I look forward to catching up with you all.
The other day I was listening to a podcast and they were discussing the importance of making time for fun and rest. When I heard the first few opening words I was kind of like “hmmm this will be interesting”. Don’t get me wrong I am all for fun. I try to make as much time for fun and rest as I can. However sometimes when someone else is telling me ” Make Time For Fun”. I can not help but think, “Do you want to take a look at my calendar and schedule it for me.”
Honestly I was kind of prepared to not really tune in 100% and then the host explained they were going to discuss:
Why fun feels far away
How to make time and schedule fun
How Sabbath can lead to healthy fun.(Don’t let the word sabbath scare you, I don’t plan on starting an alter call).
After the craziness of the last year it seems many of us struggle with making time for fun. Having yours and almost everyone you know lives get flipped upside down all at once has been heavy at times. Why do we feel guilty for having fun? Even in pre-pandemic times many of us struggled with the balance of fun and our daily duties.
We need to have more fun daily. Fun can help reduce stress. Laughter is fun. For me lately I scroll tiktok and I crack up a few times a week (if you have not taken some time to scroll tiktok you need to do so today). Getting outside to excercise a bit can be fun as well. Find what brings fun to you and do it.Time for fun is needed and refreshing.
What are some things that you like to do for fun? How often are you making time for fun?
Oops I almost forgot to let you know what podcast I was listening to. The podcast is called “We Are Going There” be sure to check it out.